Understanding “nesting” living arrangements

On Behalf of | Nov 20, 2020 | Divorce

Sometimes, the most difficult parts of divorce do not appear until after you and your ex-spouse finish the paperwork. This is particularly true for divorced couples who are still raising children. It is likely that you and your ex-spouse will be managing a co-parenting situation, and this can cause many logistical problems.

For example, many families find it a challenge to move children between two living situations. For families where this is an issue, some have decided to experiment by “nesting.” As per Psychology Today, in a nesting living situation the parents are the ones who move in and out of the house where the children live full-time.

Where do the parents live?

The parents will move in and out of the family home based on the co-parenting agreement. Where the parents live when they are not in the family home depends on the needs of the situation. For example, in short-term nesting situations it is not unusual for the “off-duty” parent to simply live with other family members or friends.

In longer-term arrangements, it is not unheard of for the parents to maintain a separate apartment. The parents will then switch between living in the apartment and the family home.

What if I want my own permanent residence?

For most families, nesting is a not a permanent arrangement. It is not uncommon for families to use nesting as a way to allow a divorcing couple an adequate amount of space from each other without needlessly interrupting the lives of the children.

Nesting arrangements usually end because the parents want their own permanent residences. However, in some situations nesting arrangements have lasted for years.

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